Wow! Has it really been 9 months since I’ve last blogged. I was going to title this 9 Months but figured that might give people the wrong idea 😉
I’m currently looking out the window at work thinking about life. My brain is firing on all cylinders these days so I figured it was time to come back to my trusty blog. I should update it but don’t even know how or where to begin on that front, so if you have suggestions feel free to comment.
So an update is in order.
I now live in Lacey Washington. I absolutely love it here except for the one way streets and a few annoying roundabouts. I work as a receptionist at an Animal Emergency and Specialty Hospital.
I have a boyfriend. In fact Steven is the reason I moved down here….which was a crazy big step but the right one for sure.
I feel that if I say “I’m quite stable and think we found the right combination of medicine” things will go haywire so I just won’t say that. This past summer during whirlwind that was my heal I had my IUD removed. It was originally placed while in Australia to help with my PCOS. Slowly as the days, weeks, and months have gone by I’ve seen some of the fog clear away. While I still struggle with Depression, my mood swings, rage and emotional outburst have decreased significantly.
When gluten is not in my system I feel great. I wish I could say I’m 100% gluten free and following the AIP diet still, however that isn’t the case. I am trying though. I’m learning how to listen to my body and understand triggers, pain and fatigue though so that’s a plus.
I emailed today and requested information about tap and ballet classes for adults so that should be fun.
While I’m the happiest I’ve been in a very long time its still hard to be in a new place. Making new friends is more nerve racking for me as an adult than it was in Jr. High. I’m currently looking for a new Church down here and hoping to find community soon. I’m hoping to blog more as I navigate through life down here. I should say up here since the majority of my readers are from the South but oh well. I have my eyes on a few 5k’s and we all know that my little black rain cloud keeps things interesting!
It was 3:18 when I woke up to the sound of my stomach growling this morning. Something I’ve gotten used to in the past few weeks of being on this diet….. or lifestyle change as people keep reminding me. I constantly eat but am never full and always craving something I cant have. Its times like theses that I try find peace in the fact that this is hard and no one expects it to be easy. If it was easy obesity would be such a problem. Alcholohics cut out alcohol, druggies – their drug of choice. I’m not comparing my food issues with a serious illness or addiction but you get the point. They aren’t hit with the temptation everywhere they turn, in their own homes, grocery stores, entertainment etc… I so wish I could cut out food all together but that’s just not an option.
I am currently
Dairy- we all know how much I love cheese
Nightshades ( I bet half of you don’t even know what that is- I didn’t) – Tomatoes, peppers and anything with flavor it seems like
Did I mention all meat should be grass fed (I’m currently not working so this just isn’t an option money wise)
and those are just the big ones
The diet ( I mean lifestyle change) I’m on is the Autoimmune Paleo Protocol which I high recommend to anyone with arthritis, autoimmune, and other inflammatory diseases
There is a half gallon of my favorite chocolate mint chip ice cream in the freezer… Mom was given a glorious box of chocolate for her birthday and then did a crappy job of hiding them ( though she tried). These temptations are all around me. Hello Self Control. I’m so thankful that God provided some money to do this diet with, I haven’t gotten a refund check in years due to student loans but suddenly it shows up. That being said I’m hungry and sick and tired, it would be so much easier to buy some $1 bread and be full than $30 worth of veggies that need to be cooked. I hate to just be venting but its my blog so I’m allowed 🙂
I’ve been praying and have downloaded a few sermons on self control. Self Control is a fruit of the spirit I just don’t have.
Good news is though, its working. The majority of my gastrointestinal issues have stopped- which is a miracle after spending all summer basically in the bathroom. I haven’t actually eaten the ice cream that is in the freezer- I have my $6 a tiny thing of coconut, dairy, soy, gluten free crap right next to it. that most mean some of my prayers are working. Did I put a tiny bit of barbeque sauce on my discusting AIP pulled pork today- maybe. It was better than the alternative though.
I’m learning. This isn’t going to happen over night for me. I’m reversing years and years of bad eating habits. I’m trying though, that should count for something
I went to church yesterday.
On Sunday I had a short conversation with my worship leader that ended in me sending him some recordings/videos of my voice. If you know me you know this came as a shocking surprise and instantly sent me into an anxiety spiral. I know that God gave me a voice and that I am to use it to honor Him. He has made that abundantly clear, what isn’t so clear is why I still dislike the sound of my voice, critique and rip every performance to shreds. Hello insecurity.
While digging through old Youtube videos and sound board mixes I stumbled across a class performance of ” You Said”
One of the girls singing was beautiful. You could tell she sparkled despite the bad video quality. Her voice was powerful and it was evident she believed every word she was singing. She didn’t seem to care her hair was a mess or that she was the largest person on stage. She was living her dreams and had everything going for her that day.
That girl was me.
I sobbed as I watched it over and over along with many others. I can’t find that girl. Where did she go? Did I leave her in Australia? Did depression and mental illness rob me of my sparkle? I haven’t sang like that in a while on stage. I do in my “Sheldon spot” 4th row end chair from the last section at church now, I’m so far back so that no one can hear me and so I don’t distract many with my semi extravagant worship (disclaimer, I love my church and if I were to stand front and center, no one would notice or care, hello insecurity again). I miss her.
The woman I’ve become is so so so much stronger than that girl was though. If I told her about the weeks she would stay in bed, how many jobs she’d lost or quit because life was too hard to handle at times, If I told her about her friends and church forcing and paying for her to seek help, or that she would gain 80lbs, she would have laughed in my face.
I’ve been on this medicine for 5 months now and I’m starting to see glimpses of her again. God reminded me of that Monday as I was getting ready for bible study goofing off with my Mom pretending I had on parachute pants and it was hammer time. He’s reminding me as I try and come out of my shell, make friends and invite people places and into my life, that girl loved people and community. The last 5 years may have been dark, scary and hard but I’m still in there. I’m still me.
Love this from Hillsong Young and Free- This is living (I personally love the acoustic version. Real one is great but way to “peppy” for me)
See the sun now bursting through the clouds
Black and white turns to color all around
All is new, in the Savior I am found
I woke up this morning and couldn’t help but think about last year. I’m at my friend David’s house south of Seattle. I cooked, we shot off fireworks and showed his Australian friend how Americans do NYE.
Today we are putting our Hillsong College educations to use and busting out a youth formal today. I don’t know how but I’m I charge of the food. Luckily we have about 200 pizza rolls, bagel bites and other wonderful “finger foods”. How did I get here? When I met David 4 years ago I never would have dreamed we’d be here.
This week has been horribly hard. I made it through Christmas without a total melt down but not this week. I can’t shake the loneliness. The need to be with people who know me, knew my year and walked in and out of the hellish pit last year. People who understand why I cry for no reason, long to visit Sydney and want nothing more than to see the boys again. God has placed wonder new friends in my life at work and church but in my heart I wanted to be home. Though home is a place that doesn’t exist anymore…
Last year at this time my greatest fear was that the boys would get taken away. Then it happened. My heart broke in so many ways. I spent most of the later part of the year attempting to recover from that. After another few trips down the depression hole I didn’t think I’d make it to 2015, let alone be functioning and medicated enough to hold a stressful job, find a new church and attempt to find my way here in Washington.
2014 taught me that through Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit I’m much stronger than I thought.
Last year I
became a mom.
Fell back in love with Worship.
I went to concerts and musicals and tried to make myself remember what fun felt like.
In the end my heart was broke. But I experienced this insane overwhelming love for Ivan and Marcus.
Climbed of out my pit and into medication
I lost 37.8 lbs!
And moved to Seattle.
For once I’m looking forward to this year, closing a few chapters behind me and focusing on me and my health.
2015 should be the best yet!!!
As much as the weather kills me here for a few days last week I forgot about my depression. It may have been raining but my little black rain cloud was the furthest from my mind. So much so I forgot my meds. I’m not sure how many days and I’m not sure I want to know. I was up up way up most of the night and sleep was just not happening. I knew. The meds. I moved to the living room so I didn’t bother my mom with my sobs because I knew the roller coaster that was coming.
I fell asleep again for a few hours and when I awoke it was back. The sinking feeling in my head, the despair, and the rain. All before opening my eyes I knew today and a few following are going to be rough.
I should be celebrating the bible study I went to last night was great. I even felt comfortable, I’m thankful I’ve found a church here and can even get past the 60+ min sermons because I know God has called me there. Not to mention the wonderful co workers I’m around today. We had such a fun outing this weekend and I’m just so so thankful I work here.
All I want is to be around my church family and friends who know me, know my illness, my moods and can hold me while I cry. It’s so so hard for me to meet people and be open. It’s exhausting pretending to have it together!
At the same time I see a light at the end of this tunnel because in all reality I’m thankful I had enough “good” days in a row I forgot the meds.
When I was little I wanted to be on broadway, be in the WNBA, a vet, and back on broadway. I loved to sing and dance and was surrounded by people (mostly family) telling me that I could actually do it. I could dream big and be whatever I wanted to be. Deep down I knew they didnt really believe that and I would never be on broadway. Same for the WNBA. I always thought I was too fat and not good enough to do any of those things. But my family still kept on the you can be anything in the world mindset. A teacher put the nail in the broadway coffin once by saying ” there are enough fat actresses on Broadway, you should stick to ag where you belong” so I did. I gave up, and dropped out of drama. Much to my surprise I won state in that year (they didnt), in multiple FFA team events, and somehow was the best poultry judger in the state. If you know me now you most likely know that story, because I’m proud of it…….. because I did it. Me… miss too fat and not good enough won.
I am still so so proud.
Same goes with my finishing my 4 5ks… I finished. I’m proud. I did that. me. 100 lbs over weight, un healthy, depressed me. Finished 4 races.
Sometimes I wish I could go back to that Sarah.
I decided it was time to go back to my half marathon training. I started looking online and realized that the Seattle Half Marathon is at the end of November. I jumped out of bed and ran in the other room to my mother to ask if she though I could do it.
She said no.
I then retreated back to my room and texted a friend to see if he thought I could do it… he didn’t say no, but he nicely said he didn’t think it was the best idea.
I got mad, then hurt, then cried a few moments and thought oh well. I proceeded to convince myself I couldn’t do it anyways.
Today I started reading “Lets All Be Brave” again. I finished the chapter and then walked 3.5 miles…. Day one of my 8 week half marathon training.
I talked to mom about it again at dinner and we agreed that I would start training and as it got closer go to the dr to make sure im healthy enough… turns out she wasnt really meaning to be a dream crusher, its just how it came out. I said “you think i can do this?” she said “no.” end of story… she left out the my heart health isnt the best at the moment part…. I just heard no.
Ive learned alot in the past few years of spiraling depression ….. I’ve learned I just dont try anymore. I believe I cant do anything and have completely stopped trying.
I’ve given up on loosing 100 lbs…
given up on actually going back to australia, ( I should be there right now… I had a trip planned)
given up on being mentally stable,
and being the person I know God made me to be.
So if this turns into another one of my I can do it, failed attemps at something blog so be it.
At least I tried. and will hopefully keep trying……